Careful to "ally" cis people.

So, I'll explain my situation:

TITLE EDIT: Careful to some "ally" cis people.

I need to change my ID and so am waiting for it to find a job. I live in a town and honestly i planned to live stealth (they probably don't even know what that means) so DON'T WANT ANYONE TO KNOW my privacy matters, especially when trans people get doxxed and outed all the time. Familiars easily told me not to care about it and show my deadname on ID and that I shouldn't care about it. When I have to show my ID it's mentally agony, since it has my deadname. They won't ever understand this, but then call themselves ally and decide for you what you should do. Call themselves ally, watch trans people videos as sort of euphoric thing and then showing this lack of empathy / gaslighting. Honestly being born trans gave me lot of issues, so I see it as a suffering condition, so no thanks. Sorry for the vent.