Why does the “give them choices” trick NOT WORK WITH MY TODDLER

All I see on social media is to give your toddler options and they will choose one. Erm no? My toddler choose neither and throw in a third option??? Is this normal? They make it sound like it works 100% of the time.

I’ve tried the “do you want to feed yourself or I feed you” to get him to have dinner and he wanted me to feed him but spat the food out without tasting it.

I tried the “do you want dinner or drink chocolate milk (it’s toddler formula)” in a desperate attempt to get my 11th percentile to eat SOMETHING and he said watermelon. And so I added a third option, dinner chocolate drink or go to your room. I don’t even know what I’m doing anymore.