Has anyone here felt Like the first choice?

I haven't and I want to feel like I'm capable of being someone you don't settle for. Someone you don't think about as a last resort end of the road type thing. I want to be the ex boyfriend who she thinks abt or the guy that other guys want to be. Being 5'6 i just think that working on myself is kinda pointless.

It's like enchanting leather armour in minecraft, like just go find diamonds and invest time into that instead.