How do you reconnect with your nested AP after time spent with other partners?

I’ve noticed myself feeling distant and withdrawing from my AP when he comes home after spending a night or more with his other partner. It’s like he feels unfamiliar to me and I feel insecure and trepidatious about reaching out to him in the ways that are usually very natural and instinctive. On the one hand I don’t want to force any super ingenuine connection before I’m ready, but on the other hand I don’t want to just passively wait until I’m ready and have it eat into the time we’re together, and I wonder if being more active about kindling reconnection would expedite the process. Or possibly even create a whole new dynamic upon his arrival home that I look forward to, in a way that obscures some of the insecurities and fear of distance altogether.

So what kind of stuff do you guys do with your partners to reconnect after time spent away with other partners?