My brother has pancreatic cancer. Give it to me straight.

My brother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. It’s moved into the liver. We know it’s terminal. What happens now ? Like realistically, what happens now. How do we prepare. What happens as this progresses.

How do we find hospice care for at home ?

How quickly will this happen?

I doubt there will be family drama. It’s just us. He has no kids. He has a fiancé. I want them to get married and I want her to have everything. He owns a home, he was in the military. I want nothing. She deserves everything.

He’s realistic . Dark humor. Strong. Everything a big brother should be.

EDIT- thank you everyone for the honesty. I am numb, scared, sad. Angry. We’ve talked a lot. He and his fiancé are going to rush the wedding and the rest of the information was really helpful. Thanks internet parents.

FINAL EDIT- Please, please, stop telling me to give my brother ringworm treatment for dogs. The FDA has seen an insane spike in the overdoses in this. Do not. I was asking my internet parents for advice. Do not message me saying “ go to the forest and eat mushrooms”. I get you mean well, but good lord.

He was given 10 months with chemo, 3 months without. If he tolerates the chemo he will, for our parents sake, but otherwise he doesn’t really want to. Our parents are using addicts , mentally disabled, etc. we grew up hard, and fast , in extreme poverty. He has always assumed he would die overseas, but didn’t, so this time is just extra ( his words). As far as the logistical things.. . He’s getting married, we’ve booked hospice calls, we’ve got his estate in order, passwords, etc. the rest of our time together we will be hanging out in playing video games, doing some sulking ( his words, not mine).

For those asking , he’s 29, I’m 27. For those who gave me real helpful advice on what’s to be expected, thank you. I will not be updating again.