Findommes on the slighly softer side - how're you doing?

I don't want to completely ruin a sub's life. I lean much more towards being ethical, and I don't want a sub going into debt for me. That's far too much spill into reality from fantasy, and isn't something I want to be a part of. I'm flexible in the way I dom. I am happy being harsher. But I like to also know my subs as people, and then their tributes come from adoration rather than a desperation to be acknowledged. I want to guide subs to be better, for them to want to worship me because of what I am to them. The dynamic is much more fun that way, in my opinion.

It seems most subs I come across want complete and utter , choking dominance . I'm wondering, at this point, if there are any subs who appreciate firmness, some meanness and condescension rather than exreme hatred. I'm far from a "mommy" dom, but it seems all subs either want that or to be the dirt on my shoes.