How do yall deal with family members that just don’t get the butch or masc thing?

I’ve been out for a long time and everyone is mostly on board and chill about my wife and kid now but any time I dress more butch or cut my “beautiful” hair short they freeze up and act weird. I’m not trying to cutoff from folks just wondering if you’ve built up a thick skin to this or if you engage with it at all. Even happens with my colleagues at work when I lean butch. Solidarity pals.