Requesting advice from anyone, and a message for fellow 3Vs

3Vs, do you feel some kind of attachment to people's will?

A 2V friend of mine recently told me as an advice to take the responsability of my life (in the sense of not being affected by what others think about me or how they treat me or has treated me in the past, specially in childhood) and this has led me to realize that I dont have my own sense of personality or identity, but instead Im constantly aware of and thinking about what others expect me not to do and not doing it, instead of being detached from it and knowing what I want etc

Im not sure its a 3V thing or it is related to something else? I think this realization is a big opportunity for improvement!

Do you all have any advice for me?