I (24f) am considering getting back together with my ex (28m), but I'm paralyzed by indecision. How do I move forward if I can't figure out what I really want?

My ex an I broke up a few months ago because we fought about sex constantly. He felt like I didn't want him or care about his needs. I felt pressure to move faster, be more sexually available, and hide my discomfort. We were both very honest with each other -- communication was not the problem.

He wants to get back together and says he could change how he approaches our relationship so we wouldn't fight as much. He wants to be flexible and patient, and we have both apologized for all the ways we hurt each other.

He's been so patient talking through every single one of my concerns -- patient in the way I always wanted when we were together. I don't hold a grudge, and I really do believe he's sincere. I still have feelings for him...I just...I'm so frozen. I can't let him go but I can't take the leap to trust him fully. I don't really believe we could make each other happy, but I can't point to one specific reason now that we've talked through all my concerns.

I feel like I am acting entirely out of self-preservation, like my top priority is making sure I don't get hurt again, even if that means missing out on something really great. But that's not how I want to live my life. I don't want to be driven by fear. I want to be willing to take risks and fight for my relationships when things get hard.I can't make him wait on me forever, and eventually, failing to make a decision will be its own decision.

I'm not ready to let him go. I'm not ready to let him back in. I just want to feel at peace.

I would really value an outside perspective.