I 24F having conflicting thoughts about my relationship.

I am 24F in a relationship with 23M. Dating has started since April. This guy was caught at his home, and his parents were really bad towards him as I'm from another religion, and his father has called me so many slurs, which is very disturbing for me. Also, there was a time when I had to elope and follow the conditions given below. My logic was anyway, both are leaving their parents, then these aren't necessary, but for him, he wants his parents, and for his parent's respect, I should follow this. There are a lot of issues in my relationship regarding compromises, and I wasn't positive about it. We are an interfaith couple, and the expectations are something going beyond my boundaries. I've told him how difficult it is for me because, since childhood, there hasn't been any cultural oppression of me. The conditions go like 1. Kids will be brought up in his faith 2. I have to change my name for the sake of society and to get respect in his workplace, he can't reveal my identity. ( I questioned him then you should marry in interfaith at all) 3. I have to put sindhoor, bindi, and mangalsutra all the time. When I said I couldn't do it all the time, he gave me illogical reasons like what if neighbours come and what they think of you. And wearing them means your husband is alive. 4. And whenever his parents visit I have to wear a saree and put flowers etc. 5. I can't practice my faith when his parents are home. ( I asked what if they stay with us, and he said they won't they would come only on occasion)

When we got into the relationship, he was like not so religious and said I've choices. And I'm also someone who doesn't like these symbols which are especially for women. As I love that person and there were lots of requests, I have almost accepted everything except 3rd point, saying I'll wear a bindi When we are going out. After agreeing, I didn't give any clarity. I said I'll try. He is behaving normally. Before this, When we were about to break up, he just had heavy dialogue like my life is gone now; thanks for proving not to love someone unconditionally (lol, he wants me to follow all the conditions) etc, etc. I also asked him once if you loved me the way I was or loved the version you imagined in his brain. He said the imagination when I asked him you've got the answer. He says I'm not asking you to do heavy work; I'm just asking you to look like a woman. The conflicting thoughts began. When I wasn't feeling good about all this, trying to communicate this, he said, "You started again". And whenever we go out to eat something he says "My mother makes much better than this, my sister makes much tastier than this" Honestly I'm just tired of this dialogue funnily I said if you keep saying like this after marriage for what I've cooked I'll ask you to go their home and eat. To show how it feels the other day, I also said the same thing: my mother makes it much better than this he says my sister makes it even better with high pitch ( he doesn't have a good relationship with his sister. She says mean things to us when she got to know about me). Also whenever we are out shopping or restaurant he says "If everything was good my mother would have also come with us" I just have to smile away (my brain: I know you love your mother but when sometimes we need only two of us to be comfortable in may ways and know spend time with each other more). I remember him saying on his honeymoon, we would take his parents too (he went on a honeymoon with his brother-in-law and his sister). Honesty, this thing freaks me out. I know there are days we should hang out with the whole family, but most of the time, I want just two of us. From all this, I got to know he is very traditional in thought, always wants his parents, can't respect my boundaries, and is scared to be with this guy. He said he would be like my family whenever he came to my parents. The point is my parents disown me; even if they demand certain things, I'll take a stand for you; why aren't you able to take a stand for me sometimes. To this, what should I do if your parents won't accept us?

He also shares reels and pictures of the transformation of women before and after marriage, how they completely changed and left their faith and accepted boys' religion. This is also scary like he is saving me from my tradition. My parents give me more freedom in tradition than this guy. I have the choice to not participate in religious rituals at home. And he says my religion is much easier, not like yours, and this hurt my feelings. In this relationship, I don't feel respected enough, I've already accepted lots of things, but whenever I try to tell, he just doesn't acknowledge my thoughts and feelings and keeps saying very little things. Why are you doing this to me I've imagined my life, etc. I need the perspectives of both females and males. I need especially male perspective to understand him better because I want to give it a chance before deciding anything. To make it easier to understand we are from Telugu state.

TLDR: A 24-year-old woman in an interfaith relationship with a 23-year-old man is facing significant cultural and religious pressure. Despite their initial agreement to respect each other's beliefs, her partner has imposed strict conditions, such as changing her name, adopting religious symbols, and raising their future children in his faith. She feels her boundaries are being disrespected and is struggling with her partner's insistence on adhering to traditional expectations, particularly from his family. She is concerned about the lack of support for her identity and values and is unsure if she should continue the relationship. She seeks both male and female perspectives, especially from men, to better understand her partner’s views and decide what to do next.