Still one tired mama

Please no sleep training advice, just to vent. I'm at my wits' end. My little one is now 13 months old and has been waking in the middle of the night , taking more than 2 hours to go back to sleep. After seeing a sleep consultant, she suggested starting to night wean . We were going to start , but he caught an ear infection . Now that he is better , he rejects the bottle at night (night weaning by himself?) , but still takes 2 hours to go back to sleep , only to wake up 30 minutes to 1 hour later . I don't know how to get him to sleep... I have been rocking and patting him , but sometimes he just cries and thrashes . My husband is no help, I'm the one up with the baby (also doing the nighttime routine and naps) but the following morning he says he is very tired (because when I'm up with the baby , he is scrolling on his phone in bed) , and I just want to scream and throw things at his head. And before you tell me to ask him to help, it's no use. He gets frustrated after 30 minutes, and I need to go back and get my little one . I'm just so tired...