WFH boss nightmare

I’ve worked for this family for 2.5 years. Both boys have extremely behavioral issues. Mom works from home and is super controlling.

Older boy is 9 has violent outbursts when he doesn’t get what he wants. Slams his head on the floor, screams, lies, cries. He makes things up constantly. He lies about everything.

Younger boy is 4 has occasional outbursts that last longer than they should but he’s 4.

Yesterday we got home from school 9B is told he cannot play until he finishes his homework. He cries, rips his little brothers picture he drew in half, screams at me, says he doesn’t have to listen to me, then lies and said I only told him to do half, continues to cry, slam his head on table.

I take 4 year old to play upstairs. So instead of doing his homework before we have to leave for his activity he goes into MB office and says I will not play with him. And I’m ignoring him. She immediately texts me in a group chat with the dad. And says find something all 3 of you can play NOW.

We played for 10 minutes before we had to leave for his hockey activity. We drive an hour to activity. 9M forgets his uniform and socks. I buy him new ones.

Then it’s 9 PM I’m already home for the night and MB texts me a photo of the kids jersey and socks with a bunch of question marks and says forget something????? The activity has been over for 4 hours at this point and I am at home eating dinner. Why is she texting me this? She makes me feel horrible at my job. When really I don’t think this is normal behavior for a 9 year old. Am I wrong?

She works from home and leaves her office door open all day. The kids say they don’t need to listen to me bc they will just go ask their mom and she contradicts everything I say and lets them do whatever. I’m at the end of my line. Is this normal