Lament of an MB

The sadness and grief I have that our nanny is leaving us literally stops me in my tracks during my day. I ask myself or text my husband multiple times “I can’t believe <Nanny> is leaving us. I’m so sad, what will we do?!”

Her husband was laid off and was offered a job across the country and they’d be dumb not to take it. She doesn’t really want to move but there are no big reasons to stay.

She has been my rock when I had my second child. I firmly believe that I have not had PPD/PPA this time around because of her. She stayed late with our toddler when I went to the hospital, coordinated with my mother and wasn’t afraid to be at the house when my husband got the flu (guaranteed to our bedroom) and almost missed my daughter’s birth. She is thoughtful, caring, really thinks about engaging activities for our son and is always open to problem solving. “Why did he skip his nap? Why is he getting bored while eating? Why hasn’t bb girl pooped yet? Lol” I see the way she looks at my 4 mo old and cuddles with her and baby wears her. I see her eyes light up when she gets my toddler to laugh hysterically.

I feel like she is more than just a “nanny”. She loves my kiddos, invested time and energy to get to know our dogs, us and gave us the opportunity to get to know her.

I know that a lot of posts and comments on here are nanny’s that feel unappreciated and have bad nanny families and for that I am sorry. The work you all do for our nanny families mean the world to us. We trust you with our kiddos and you give so much and deserve all the praise in the world.

In those times you feel like what you do doesn’t matter, take a moment and know that you are making an impact not just on those kids but the parents too. I wish I could hug you all, send you bonuses and get you all massages.

Thank you for all that you do and please send positive thoughts that I’ll find another amazing nanny who will give us a chance!