Update: Trying to save my marriage....
So I found out 8 days ago that even though she told me she was trying she was still kissing him and coming home and kissing me. 🤮
After a few hours of talking she said she might regret it but she didn't think she could try any longer because she doesn't have any feelings. I understood and made it clear what that meant (sleeping in separate rooms until we could seperate) and have shifted my focus to the kids and preparing for divorce. Thank goodness i already had my own therapy.
On Saturday I took the kids out to my parents for a few hours and in that time she had planned to go on a dinner date with him. I cannot believe who this woman has become she cannot even wait until we split to date her boyfriend. It has made anytime in the house awkward and every day feels like a struggle. She had mentioned she felt like not a great mom spending time away with him and her friends this weekend. But when she got back from her date she doubled down on how good of a mom she is, I assume he gave her a pep talk at dinner. Feel like she was living a double life.
I really just want to know from others that have gone through this a few things.
1.Will my kids be okay and how do I protect them now that her focus seems to be on her new relationship? Beyond what laywers could help with.
How do I get through this awkward time when she is not being even a little bit respectful? Her parents are upset and acting like i am the bad one. Even though I have expressed I want us both to get out of this as best as possible for the kids.
I know this is later on the list of things to think about but, is there hope for me to find love again at 31 with kids, with the potential to have more kids? I thought I had chosen a life long partner but was wrong.
Thank you all for your help. A man who blindsided...