MIL Cries and “forbids” me from “killing her grandbabies” - wants me to get rid of my dog so her future imaginary grandchildren she expects me to spawn with be safer

ADVISORY!: hot damn I didn’t expect to get more than five upvotes but thanks folks for the support. Please don’t share this anywhere! I’ve added the photo of my dog so if anyone on that side of the fam sees it they will DEFINITELY know this was me, I just wanted to rant & blow off steam with y’all, if I want to wreck all my years of patience’s & peacekeeping I’d just tell her all this myself… thanks in advance for keeping this within our community 🙌🏼

**TW: abortion/miscarriage mentioned

(Posted this already in child free Reddit but while writing realized it belonged here more)

So first off this woman is fucking unhinged. I could rant for hours but I won’t. I accidentally took my adderall before bed instead of lexapro so I’m wide fucking awake so I’m sorry for how long this is.

Context: I’m not trying to kill my future nieces and nephews 😂 and I’m not pregnant/planning to have an abortion.

Anywho. We were at a wedding reception, on the drive there we’d passed a sign that said “women aren’t cattle” luckily she didn’t see it, but later that night at the party some other guy brought it up which of course triggered an abortion conversation. Now me and the dude who brought it up are both (usually) really civil in arguments and so I didn’t feel uncomfortable continuing the conversation. I basically said I think my human life should be valued more than the hypothetical humans my body is capable of spawning. He said “a woman can walk into a planned parenthood at 36 weeks pregnant and have an abortion, that seems wrong to me” and I said something about citing his sources and including context ect, and again reiterated that if carrying a pregnancy to term will kill the mother she has the right to not die, she’s a full human. I used the word “fetus” not “baby” which then made my MIL shout (across the table at a wedding reception) “BABIES HAVE A HEARTBEAT AT SIX WEEKS THATS WHEN LIFE BEGINS”

So remember when I said I’m usually good at staying civil? Well, it had been a long weekend with said MIL who is extremely difficult in every aspect of life. So me, taking the bait, said to her “it’s not a baby it’s just a bundle of cells with an electrical pulse.” And she starting SOBBING and SCREECHED: . ”I FORBID YOU TO KILL MY GRANDBABIES” .

For the surrounding people who didn’t get context, I am now an attempted murderer of none existent grandchildren.

Also: this is the same woman who told me to get rid of my dog because she “doesn’t want him around [her] grandchildren. “ She tried to pet my rescue dog, when he started rumbling at her my husband said “mom, he doesn’t want to be touched” and she said “thAtS JuSt HoW He SaYs HeLLo” and kept touching him. His growls got louder and she kept touching his face and ears, DH warned her again to stop and before he could grab the leash our dog snapped at her hand. He didn’t break skin, didn’t leave a mark, just put teeth on hand to establish boundaries.*

Side note about the dog, skip if you don’t care: (He had a hard life before. He doesn’t like to be touched. He lets necessary things happen like leashing baths and nail trims, for contact he likes to just sit near you, maybe resting against your leg, but scratches once he trusts you. He doesn’t want you in his face touching his head and ears. I wish he knew to just walk away from people when they try to touch him but he thinks he’s obligated to stay, still not sure how to teach him that he can go if he wants without undoing his obedience during necessary contact like at the vet)

Anyway back to crazy MIL: So later that night I find myself alone with her and my dog. He’s just chilling at my feet now getting sleepy. She’s deeply vodka drunk, starts talking about his behavior. I can tolerate a lot of her nonsense and just “mhm” “cool” “that’s very funny” my way through a mean spirited conversation, but after all the work I’ve done with this dog to make it possible for him to have a life, not to mention how absolutely sweet and loving he is when he feels comfortable, I couldn’t let it roll off this time. I didn’t even get rude or anything, I just defended his training and how far he’s come and how as long as people respect his space he will be fine. “wElL KiDs DoNt AlWaYs LiStEn He WoULdNt bE sAfE aRoUnD KiDs”

“I agree that’s why I don’t ever bring him near them.”

“WeLL I DoNt WaNt HiM aRoUnD My GrAnDkIDs” (again NONE OF HER CHILDREN HAVE KIDS. My husband is her only married child!)

I say, yea Like I said I don’t bring him where kids are so when [BILs] have kids they wont meet him.

“But how will that work with your kids”

“I’m not having kids”

Followed by a classic lecture on how I will change my mind when I’m older (im already 26 and I want kids a hundred times less with every passing second of my life) and she thinks I need to consider if this dog is a good fit for my future.

Or I guess I should say, the future of her son and what she views as his his cum dumpster (only after marriage, of course) and grand baby factory.

Edit: A conversation with her never goes by where she doesn’t bring up me having her grandkids. Always phrased that way, never “if you have children of your own” it’s “WHEN you have MY grandchildren” like Im a fucking prize cow she wants to breed with her best Bull. My husband is her youngest son, her others are all in their 30s and have never had serious girlfriends but never hear a word about producing babies for her to slobber all over.

*Yes, it’s my responsibility as his owner to keep him from snapping at people. But, when you tell a fully grown adult to stop trying to touch a dog and she doesn’t listen and doesn’t stop, I think she takes on responsibility for what the consequences of that will be.

Edit: those asking to see the good boy: Photos of the Good Boy