Alimony the unpopular opinion

I'm venting because the more I hear about this situation the more upset I become. Plus, it's hitting very close to home.

If either party is 100% capable of working, has no disabilities and have no children under the age of 8. Why would they receive alimony?? Mind you, this is blended family situation. Also, there was physical violence at the beginning of the marriage (female was physical towards male, especially when alcohol was involved).

Idc if you are a man or a woman. If you don't have a valid reason as to why you didn't want to work for the whole marriage (in this case it's been almost 11 years) and then decide if my partner wants a divorce then I'm going for alimony then you are selfish and lazy. And having ADHD isn't an excuse you get to use to stay home for 9 years but suddenly go to work for the past 6 months.