Hot younger wife… boooooooo

We’ve been together 11 years… 1 year amazing sex multiple times a day where she regained her confidence from an ex husband that withheld sex from her. 10 years of withholding sex from me and pretending she doesn’t know I’m silently upset with her. I’m become everything she’s asked for.. I’ve always been financially secure and didn’t work much. She didn’t like that so I started working all the time. In the meantime, she quit her career and didn’t work at all. She didn’t like me talking in the morning or talking at night or talking much at all, so I’ve become very silent around her. I’ve given her everything and more that she’s asked for. I’m a great looking 55 year old spontaneous and fun guy.. she’s a supper funny and beautifully hot 40. Nothing I do seems to be enough to make her want to ever fill my love language. She picks on me about everything and I feel I’m walking on eggshells around her. If I ever speak my feelings she gets loud, angry and ultimately violent. There is nothing I wouldn’t do to make her happy. And she refuses to acknowledge the connection I need from her. WTF!!!