I’m too wet (that’s his excuse)

I posted a few months ago about my husband and I being in a dead bedroom. He never mentioned “why” he didn’t want to have sex with me until today. I tried to initiate and it was going fine. Then he stopped and I lost it. Crying And demanding a reasonable explanation why he doesn’t want to have sex with me he finally said it. I am too wet. Too much fluid, lubrication for him. Is this for real??? Yes I do get wet bc I’m turned on. We also don’t have sex so anything is a major thing to me. I was so mad and confused.

Is this real life? Can you guys give me thoughts on this? What do you do about this?! Thank you.

Update: thanks to all of you who shared comments and helped me feel less crazy and more supported. I told him that I didn’t think that my body and its self-lubing is the issue. He became defensive when I said that it could be his fault. He said that his masturbation has nothing to do with it and no other woman in his life had this issue (that I do). He is now not speaking to me and said he’d rather sleep in the guest bedroom. I don’t know if this will ever change, and I’m devastated that I married someone so childish when it comes to real life issues and relationships.

Another Update: So I brought up the fact that if my wetness is an issue, we can have a towel nearby to clean off as we go. We tried it, and it was fine. Ultimately, he has admitted that it’s a combo of death grip and anxiety. He’s very anxious about performing and making sure he finishes. BUT he said that’s bc it’s MY fault I want him to cum. Nope, not true, I explained it’s not a requirement every time!!! I want sex to be fun, pleasurable and a reciprocal experience. Still have yet to get anything from him and think it’s never going to happen. He’s content with jerking off alone than being open to my needs. I’m choosing to just deal with it atm. Thank you everyone for your support. It means a lot!!!