losing friendships as I heal

hey dears! the other day, a friend texted me out of nowhere (like literally, we did not have contact for two months) that he does not want me to text him, and he doesnot want to see me. I did not answer his message and dont think I will. but it triggered my abandonment wounds and I am kinda spiraling over what happened. just a little context: before this message, I stayed over their place with a friend two months ago (I asked permission from both), the other friend was more social with me so we hanged out with the other friend mostly and stayed in his room. I tried to have chats with the other friend but he was mostly high and he did not talk with me that much. I took his antisocialness as it being about his own mood, rather than anything about our friendship. Another thing that I think might have affected him to send this message was we used to smoke weed together and I quit smoking. he made a comment about how I became like a western country citizen that I migrated to (we didnt hang out for some time since I migrated there). anyways I just ignored his unwarranted comments. in any case I dont think I did anything to receive this kind of message, and I am surprised to be drawn to a drama like that even though I basically just exist. I would have taken accountability if I hurt his feelings or triggered him. additionally, I keep wondering how I attracted these kinds of people in my life and what I did wrong in the past so now that I am stabile and some of my friendships are falling apart dramatically. drama kinda has been an integral part of my life, I feel like I am just not that involved like not messaging this friend... any thoughts on why did I attract these kinds of dynamics in my life and what can I do to be sure that I dont have friendships like that? do you think it is common to have this kinds of fall outs as you heal?