Condescending & patronizing texts from ex still make my blood boil

"Good luck with the others"

"I'm saying I know you'll find someone once you start socializing"

"You'll find your person"

"You've made a lot of improvements, so keep doing it, keep socializing and your person will come"

As if I was just a thing, a minor inconvenience. As if my effort and the talks we had about our future were for fun. As if people really are that replaceable.

I know it's over. These things were said when I reached out a few months after an argument. We had been broken up for nearly 9 mos by then. But he reached out to me after the breakup, even double texted, check-ins and even asking why my profile pic disappeared at one point, thinking he was blocked. Admittedly, I couldn't handle his cold demeanor, and it set me off and led to arguments. He wasn't the same person I first knew, and it was tough knowing that person was never coming back no matter what I did or said. In this last text exchange, I found out he was dating after proclaiming he wanted nothing to do with it etc. I called him out. Maybe I shouldn't have, but I was seeking truth after a cruel and cold breakup that was filled with words and excuses but not any accountability on his part. But his replies were so absolutely dismissive and cruel as if to say "Run along now!" It's the weird assumption that I'm so little, less-than, and invalid that I have no friends and need to start socializing to move on. Really I was just seeking closure and in that telling him "just admit your reasons". And got these kinds of texts instead. I wanted to punch bricks. Texts are deleted now but I still think of this condescending interaction and think WTF.

Anyone else get this kind of bs???