What were the “phases” of your breakup?

I’m currently 4 months post split from my ex of almost 4 years, we have a 3yo daughter together. We were friends for 20yrs and were trying for our second when I found out I was pregnant, then he left me 2 weeks later. I lost the baby 2 weeks after that.

I’ve heard every breakup has “phases.” I think I’m currently in the anger phase, heading into my glow up lmao I’ve been feeling so much more feminine lately and have completely redone my room. I’m excited for my life without a man, but I’m so angry that he’s put my daughter and I through this. I hate not having her on weekends, I hate that he’s so selfish to leave his pregnant partner. I’m so angry but it feels so good. The man needs to get fixed so he stops doing this to children, he has a son with his ex that he left when he was almost 2 years old as well.

He’s bipolar and unmedicated, he’s the most selfish pos I’ve ever met. I didn’t see it until recently. There’s a lot of guilt on my end for giving my daughter such a crap father.