Dude, invalidation is WILD. TW: stalking

I was being stalked for a year and one of my coworkers defied my literal stalker because

“she’s so nice, she was probably being nice to you and you misread it”

And

“Because of your disorder, you might be acting out right now. She’s such an angel”

It dosent take years worth of therapy to know that’s an awful thing to say to someone. I don’t give a fuck if I have BPD or whatever disease!!!! My stalker came to my place of employment looking for me multiple times, came to my house uninvited and badgered me on the pretenses of “your mental health is fragile, let me help you clean” , told me my husband doesn’t love me, and tried to kiss me the last time we hung out (I tried to set boundaries with her in person). This stalker of mine used to be a mutual friend, ever since I started DBT and disclosed that I was diagnosed with BPD she had been acting so strange. I thought I was the problem, idk this makes no sense.

Everybody’s over here looking at me like I’m a villain that broke her heart, but she’s literally the reason why I work online now. I can’t even work at my college campus anymore because of her inability to hear the word “no” and her weaponizing my diagnosis against me to invalidate any boundary I set.

I’m used to people talking about their FP’s and how we’re supposed to be the ones with obsessions with people. I figured I’d share this to kinda say BPD be damned, this kind of thing happens to us too. I got stalked, my BPD didn’t protect me or make me suddenly less bothered that someone was obsessed with me. Bad shit happens to us too, undeniably bad shit!

Edit: “defended” not defied