Small vent: the way autistic people are viewed

Okay so basically, I saw a TikTok with a girl who invited an autistic guy to prom, and all the comments were like 'Give her a medal' 'Her parents raised her right' etc., as if it’s this heroic thing to be kind to a person with autism. It is as if the default understanding is that no one wants to be around autistic people, and those who 'sacrifice' themselves to be with us are absolute heroes. Like it’s unthinkable she might actually like him as a person. It pisses me the hell off and just shows how many people still equate the word "autistic" to mean "less than" or "burdensome" or "annoying". Not one comment pointed out the obvious infantilization and ableism, it was all just people basking in the pity porn.