Advice for reading

Hello! I have recently been drawn into this series but have come to realize a problem I have with reading. I have a strong desire to understand and remember everything about what I read. Obviously this is an unrealistic standard that I have for myself, especially when it comes to reading denser materiel like this series. So, should I just “chill out” and enjoy reading, or should I make a concentrated effort to keep timelines and characters straight in my head. How did you all approach this series?