What does a healthy friendship with a guy look like???

As a simple as this sounds, for a guy this is very complicated. As a guy, we have been told about the friendzone and how dangerous it can be to be there. And unfortunately, alot of the guys who talk about it, just want sex. They don't actually want a relationship with a woman.

As a dude, it's almost seen as failure if a girl friendzone you. I know that i can't tell certain guys that a girl only sees me as a friend. Because they will shame. Now I am a simp or needy if I stay friends. It has confused me alot.

Here's the issue I ran into that no one talks about. You aren't actually friends with a girl. So there is no friendzone lol because you aren't even in a friendship. Often times, I been told a girl just sees me as a friend but that was a subtle way that she doesn't want to be around me.

Personally I want healthy platonically friendship with women too! But it's hard to express that without it coming off like you want more.

A quick short story: I met this one girl that I did like but we kinda was friends. Like she befriended me in school and we hung out alot at parties. When I found out she didn't like me, I was crushed. However I was more crushed because I wanted a friend. We weren't even texting or hanging out. I still kinda talk to her but I don't feel close so I typically just say hi and walk away. I miss the friendship before. She never said we couldn't be friends but I stop trying to talk to her because all the advice given was to stop being a simp. So I feel ashamed being excited talking to her.

So thats my rant maybe idk i wanted this to be a question lol. But I am curious as women how close to you let guys to you? Like would you text a guy daily or weekly. Is he allowed to call you as a friend. Can he ask to hang out sometimes 1on1 if isn't trying anything. Whats the rule here?