Men, in your past dating experiences, have you always been the one to initiate, or did the woman initiate sometimes?

As a normal looking man who's never dated, I have had some shoot their shot indirectly(guys and girls), or somebody would say "I saw so and so checking you out, or I see people checking you out sometimes, and you don't even seem to notice". So I have never had someone just straight ask me out or flirt in an a obvious way, but then again I am a bit of a recluse, but when I do interact(online and IRL) that's what has happened in my experience.