Crying has made me lose so many good arguments! How do I fix this.

28F here. Normally a very opinionated person ( not to be confused with argumentative ) and 70- 80 percent of the times on the right side of history. I watch my words and try to be respectful. Sometimes I get so passionate about what I’m saying that my eyes end up watering and then I realise that the focus of the people has shifted from what I’m saying to how I’m saying it. Then I’m not taken seriously anymore. The men I’ve had interactions with - friends, family, boyfriends all of them speak crap here and there and talk serious emotional stuff when needed. But no one’s crying.

I see this in so many women though. The extra blinks to make the tears go away, the swallowing and looking away, the quivering voice and higher pitch and red splotches on the face.

People who don’t deal with this? How did you fix it?