What has changed?

Hey everyone I'm an older gay man aged 59. I'm sure I'm not the only one that has noticed a shift in how there seems to be a lot of degrading of sex partners during sex now. Like calling them names. Like slut, whore, faggot to name a few. Even being extremely aggressive, slapping and choking come to mind. Don't get me wrong , I like my ass slapped a little , but not to the point where it's red or hurts.

Also why is everyone doing poppers now. Ever heard of a natural high? One last thing. Why are so many guys now taking ED medication for recreational use. .would be nice to here from all ages older to younger. What has changed?