AITA for making my husband walk back home?
My (23f) husband (39m) calls me manipulative. He says I gaslight him and isolates him from his friends. I always tell him to stop using that word so lightly and just being in a disagreement does not mean I am a manipulator. This was never an issue when we were dating but once we got married he started doing the “old ball and chain” bit. He says I’m so controlling and I started getting fed up. I wouldn’t call myself controlling, I just have to constantly remind him to do chores since he never does anything in the household. We were at a mall with friends, we looked at dishwashers. He said if we get it i’ll maybe stop nagging him about the dishes and i’ll stop being manipulative. This was it, he insulted me in front of friends. I left with the car and he could find his way back home. He came back home at 3 am, I feel really bad for making him walk back. AITA?
UPDATE: I didn’t expect this post to have gotten this big. Let me try to explain some questions that were frequently asked and add more nuance to the situation. We got married 3 months ago, and we met about two years ago due to my mother. She introduced me to him with the hopes we would fall in love. I didn’t see any history of bad behavior, he was extremely understanding all throughout our relationship. Although the age gap was something big in our relationship, we communicated about it alot when we were dating. We didn’t live together until the marriage, we both come from traditional families which didn’t allow it. When we moved in together, he started calling me manipulative for asking him to do chores, such as cleaning dishes, folding laundry, all things I presume his mother would do for him. He would claim it was manipulative because I would ask him to do the chores while he was often watching important games on the television. He claimed I was purposely distracting him. I left at around 7, and the mall closed at 8. The friends would not have been able to drive him back, because they take public transit, and the bus doesn’t arrive where we live. He would maybe have been able to order an Uber, but it didn’t seem like he did. People often asked if he went out with friends, that could have been a possibility but he did not seem intoxicated when he arrived home. I was worried about his late arrival, but I was so enraged by his words towards me, I couldn’t have cared less about his whereabouts. I also asked him later about where he went and he replied that he was forced to “walk in shame” and it really did take him that long (I’m aware it's bullshit, but I didn’t want to push it any further) I am currently finishing my last year of university (I took a gap year) in business, so my income is pretty sparse. The only thing I pay for regularly is the food. The bills, the utilities, gas, are all paid by my husband. Many people are recommending me divorcing him, I don’t want to divorce over something so petty, and the age gap really does not bother me. I will definitely look into marriage counseling thank you so much everyone for the help.