AIO to what my (now ex) said to my mom?
TW: VERBAL ABUSE
To add some context, I (25f) was in this relationship for 4 years with my (now ex) boyfriend (24m). I recently lost my job back in July of this year, then my mental health plummeted, so I started going to a program for it. I was going 6 hours a day, 5 days a week. Every time I would get home, I would have MAJOR anxiety symptoms, and he would ask me if I was ok. I would always tell him that I was just tired, as I knew that he didn’t really believe in mental health nor the practices.
I wound up doing a couples session with him, and realized that he wasn’t listening to both me and the therapist and was just “going through the motions.”
So I sat on my thoughts for a bit. Every time I would go into my group, the group members would notice that I was down and, usually, it was because of him. I wasn’t feeling happy, nor emotionally connected with this man anymore.
So I broke up with him. I was very poised and mindful of what I wanted to say to him. I was met with anger, and a lot of it. I was called an infant, sub-human, a failure, etc. He also told me to “get the FUCK out.”
So I did. I took everything that was mine. I took my cats (Callie and Belle) that I bought and had registered to my name, my furniture, my decorations. Everything. That day was such a blur. Then, the texts started coming, not to me, but to my mother (66f).
I also want to add that I NEVER cheated on him. He just didn’t want to accept that he was the problem and couldn’t handle the empathy that I needed from him.