How to choose....

I'm having the most difficult time choosing a resort. I've only been to one in high school a long time ago. My husband has never been. My original favorite was excellence playa mujeres but they now doubled in price since I've looked and they won't allow down payment. We are going first week in october. Our biggest thing is FOOD. Sushi/seafood specifically but just good food options. And then swim up bars, beautiful beach, big pools, preferably adult only. Looking only in Mexico. Want to stay under $4000 total and hoping somewhere I can do down payment. I also don't like the resorts that exclude stuff from you for not being club unless it's really not worth getting. Also caught between whether swim ups are worth or a private jacuzzi instead. We want some water activities whether that's kayaking, snorkeling, etc.

Here are a few other ones I am deciding between:

-El Dorado Caritas Royale -majestic elrgence Costas mujeres -TRC yucatan -TRC Coral -atelier costa mujeres (without inspira club is it worth it?) -el Dorado seaside palms

What else is there?? Help me choose one as it's so overwhelming!! TIA😊