ABYG for not wanting to adjust?

My husband (MH) and I have been planning our daughter’s first birthday for months now, we were planning to invite immediate family and friends that are really close to us and of course yung alam naming may maiaambag sa life ng anak namin.

We reserved a venue for 65 pax. Now, our guest list has been adjusted already to those who have confirmed that they will be attending and sakto lang yung 65pax talaga, that includes us already. Then enter my mother-in-law (MIL), MH told her that she is not to invite anyone without his permission kasi alam talaga namin that once the invitation is sent, she’ll forward it to their family GC (which MH is no longer a part of kasi toxic), and would expect her siblings to attend.

Now here comes her drama, she messaged MH asking to invite her older brother’s family, MH’s uncle, they are 15 in total in that family, MH told her that it can’t be done kasi nga 65 pax lang, we already invited MIL’s other siblings, her sister that is already 4 pax and another brother which is 7 pax, that’s 11 seats already taken from people who do not even give a single F about our children because they are distant relatives already at this point. She volunteered to pay just so all her relatives can get an invite but when told that it would be 1k/pax, she quickly resorted to a plea. Her exact words were, “Pakiusap naman, kahit 5 nalang invite mo sa kanila.” this is what I found so ridiculous kasi bakit need ipush na imbitahin? The party is not even for her, she did not give a single cent and she should not even be inviting people kasi nga again, THE PARTY IS NOT FOR HER.

I told MH that we should not even be adjusting our guest list or the number of pax for the event kasi ANAK NAMIN ang may birthday, she should not be making decisions on who can come and celebrate. I also mentioned to MH that if we plan a party, kelangan talaga namin mag allot ng at least 20 to 25 seats just to accommodate her eh hindi nga siya ang mag babayad.

I just feel so irritated sa MIL ko kasi we spent so much already for this party that’s in a week, tapos gusto niya talaga ipilit yung gusto niya. She even asked how much we paid for the event so far and when told it was around 6 digits nakiusap nalang, di niya naman pala kayang bayaran ang mga taong gusto niyang papuntahin.

Nakakasira ng araw, honestly. Need ba talaga pumunta ng mga taong yun eh makikikain lang naman. Ayaw niya mag adjust edi wag nalang din siya pumunta. Yung sa family ko nga 5 lang yung pupunta na may ambag pa mga kapatid ko niyan. Nakakaloka.

ABYG kasi ayoko i-accommodate request ni MIL kahit kaya naman namin bayaran yung additional pax?

EDIT: An update nobody asked for, so boundaries were set with MIL, the party was held earlier and guess what? KASAMA BUONG ANGKAN NIYA. MH and I were baffled, true naman na di niya binigyan ng invite, sinama nalang agad. We just looked at each other and napa WHAT THE ACTUAL F nalang talaga. Didn’t have the time and energy to waste arguing with her kasi may ibang bisita din kami na need ma entertain but because of what she did, kinulang kami ng seats for our other guests that were on the list. Some had to stay outside kasi yung angkan niya were seated already inside the venue. Tangina lang talaga.