TLDR; AITAH for doubting this relationship?

Ok, please no hate I have looked at this every side & want to be open-minded, hence why I’m writing this. But I’m just in a predicament with myself at this point. So to start with some (a lot of) context, my bf (M 25) & I (F 25) have been best friends for 3 years. I met him at a bar not too long after I got out of the psych ward (I know lol). We hit it off instantly! It’s hard for me to connect to other people romantically so I was shocked when I found myself wanting to see him again after that night. We hooked up but unlike other men I had one night stands with, he instantly messaged me asking me where I went, about my day, if I was ok etc. so I was charmed. Over that summer we had gotten so close, he’s stubborn & so am I so we definitely fought a lot but regardless he showed me a lot of affection from the get go. Fast forward 2 years I’ve helped him deal with his grandmother’s passing, helped him move in, his mother had started calling me his girlfriend to everybody. I never pushed on that but of course after buying him beer all the time, going through gas (he lived 25 mins from me & he’s still never been to my house or met my family) & buying him & his family Christmas presents I expressed that I do have feelings for him. He understandably told me he didn’t feel that way & wasn’t even thinking about relationships so while it hurt, I pushed back a little bit & tried to take my feelings out of the equation. Fast foward we’ve been FWB (best friends with benefits I guess) all of the 3 years we had spent together. I had finally met someone I had an interest in through a friend. I was pretty smitten & I actually liked this man a lot. That being said he was 20 so I wasn’t all the way comfortable with it, as I should have been!! Anyway, my now boyfriend started demanding more attention of me while I was in this relationship. Which was odd to me, because he had always been nonchalant about what I’ve been doing throughout the week, but now he was messaging me every. Single. Day. Of course his friends & mom told me they wanted me to pick him which was an awkward conversation, but they said at the same time it was weird he started acting that way now, right after I get in a relationship. My relationship at that time crumbled, my bf at the time started using me for the gifts I gave him, my money, & he didn’t have a job or car. So.. I cracked after everything & told my now boyfriend I still had feelings & wanted to do this. Here we are months into actually being official. I love him still, so much, but sometimes I feel so neglected. He has called actresses & YouTubers hot more than he’s ever said that to me. He takes days out of my week to hangout & then just does things himself (uses my laptop to make video essays, gambles online & asks me to pitch in, wants me to drive him & hangout with his friends. Sure I don’t mind doing that for someone I love, but it gets to a point where I feel it seems one-sided. I don’t feel like my needs are being met at this point, I feel like when I wear down & can’t hide the sadness I feel he starts being sweet & kisses me or gives me some affection. But other than that, he says he doesn’t like affection & when I push it too much it gets annoying & makes him distance himself. I understand our love language isn’t the same but I go out of my way to make sure I meet his needs which doesn’t distant me or annoy me. I’m sorry this is so long, if you care to read it I would just love some advice or feedback. I just love him so much & sometimes I feel like I’m being too sensitive, AITAH??